This is what children always remember after their parents divorce (#7 made me cry)

Divorce can have a profound impact on a child’s life. It can be a difficult and confusing time filled with uncertainty and changes. In the midst of these changes, children often hold onto certain memories that stick with them long after their parents’ divorce. These memories become a part of their narrative, shaping their perception of the world and their relationships. This article will explore some of the most common things that children always remember after their parents’ divorce.

The First (of many) Big Fights

The shouting, the language employed, perhaps the image of your mother immediately following…these memories etch themselves into your mind. It’s the moment when you come to understand that maybe things aren’t as secure as you thought. Sometimes, even when the commotion settles, that uneasy sensation remains in the depths of your mind.

Having Everything Revealed

Deciding how to communicate with people you know, such as friends and teachers, can be difficult. Some people become uncomfortable and awkward, while others ask too many questions. It can feel like all eyes are on you and that you have suddenly become a different person. Keeping things to yourself may seem like the easier option, at least for a short period of time.

Watching Your Parents Break Down

It can be unsettling to see your parents, who are supposed to be pillars of strength, vulnerable and emotional. The natural instinct is to try and fix the situation, but sometimes it’s not possible and this burden can feel overwhelming. It’s also tempting to suppress your own emotions in order to spare your parents any additional worry.

The Weekend Visits

It’s not just stuff for a sleepover anymore. It’s like a reminder you’re always in-between places, that you don’t quite have one home. Sometimes you even pack things you don’t really need, just because they make one house feel a little more like the other.

All The Secret Whispers

You notice the hushed phone calls and your grandmother’s quiet conversations in the kitchen, despite their attempts to hide it from you. It fills you with worry, even though you struggle to make sense of it all. It seems like the adults are withholding secrets that could potentially disrupt your life once more.

The Ghost In The Chair

Are you dreading the upcoming Parent-Teacher Night or school concert? Do you feel like the odd one out when everyone else has their entire family present except for you? It can be embarrassing and lonely, and it might even seem unfair. That one missing person can make you feel like a spotlight is shining on the differences in your family dynamic.