Here Are SIX Warning Signs That Mean Your Romance Is About To Fail

Noticing the red flags in a relationship isn’t just about saving yourself from heartbreak—it’s about understanding when to invest more effort and when it might be time to let go. And although it may seem so, finding these red flags doesn’t mean you’re searching for a way out. No matter where you lie on the spectrum, I’ve compiled a list six warning signs that your relationship might be hitting the rocks.

1. A Breakdown In Communication

This is a sign of significant shifts in feelings within your relationship for a few reasons. Namely, you’re not in a place where you’d like to share your current world, or your future with that individual. If it were a co-worker, you could easily tell them to kick rocks.

However, in a relationship, the idea is normally to build with a person around the intent of sharing the human journey together. Not communicating openly means one, or both partners don’t see the situation in that light.

Without thoughts and chatter of goals keeping you holding on, there usually isn’t much else remaining.

2. Unrelenting Criticism

This Motha*$cker is getting on my last damn nerve –

my Ex

Noticing something you don’t think jives with you is normal. So, don’t take this to mean as soon as you don’t like one thing about him or her the show has come to a close. What the kicker here is when many of the normal mannerisms and habits of this person seem to agitate you in ways you never imagined.

One sign is beginning to set a different standard for them than others in your life. For example, if your boyfriend leaving the toilet seat up sends you to the moon, yet your bestie can do the same without consequence, there is some serious unpacking to do.

Even if it’s just a phase of annoyance to you, keep the partner in mind. Remember constant criticism chips away at your self-esteem and steals joy from the relationship.

This is true for the person who does the judging as well. Even if you’re right EVERY SINGLE TIME.

3. Strategic Avoidance

Everyone needs a few moments alone from time to time. This is actually healthy. Even if it’s just a few minutes at night.

Sorry ladies, but it may not be very good for your husband to make him come to bed just because you’re ready.

Where the problem lies is within the excess of time being spent alone, or with other friends. Or better yet, when your time together feels like a household chore and a bore to you both. Love may be a responsibility, in addition to the potent feelings it brings about. So there shouldn’t be a continuous feed of resentment surrounding your lover’s presence.

4. No Nookie No More

It’s inevitable that couples will have less sex through the passage of time. Even with the bursts of vigor you’ll feel for each other during the highs, it won’t compare to the first year or so of being together.

And that’s okay, because intercourse isn’t the only way to express love.

In fact, sex may be the worst way to show love for another person. Why? Simply because you can literally have sex with anyone, without any connection whatsoever. Some people choose to lie to themselves in this respect, saying they need someone who makes them laugh, or ‘gets’ them.

However, when that luxury is totally absent, people become willing to sacrifice creature comforts like getting to know each other.

I only mention this because we totally underrate how difficult it is hold your partner’s hand in public when you hate their guts for the day. Even still, you’re more likely to find yourself having sex with them later in the night.

Yes, the reasoning may be to ‘take care of their needs’ in the relationship. But the truth that it was much less drudging than strolling through the mall still remains. It’s also likely your lover would have liked to hug you more they liked to hump you.

5. A True Lack of Support

Not believing in everything a person undertakes, DOES NOT mean you don’t support them. Don’t even make that an argument in your relationship. We all understand that not every point in a couple’s plot to life goals looks precisely the same. Let’s be adult enough to admit it.

So, what does a TRUE lack of support mean?

When the time your partner spends in your corner diminishes, it becomes a warning sign. It won’t show up when you decide to spend half your life savings to start a battery charging cart. That’s well-placed anger. That’s normal anxiety.

If you notice that your beau is tougher on you than in the past, or doesn’t want to understand your point of view in as great detail as they did before, the support may be starting to falter.

What this means for you is that your wins won’t be celebrated with the same energy. And you won’t get as much help licking your wounds after a loss. Furthermore, you may notice your partner distancing themselves from your internal conflicts, altogether.

6. Trouble Planning The Future

If you’re planning and working on the future without the person you are spending it with, there’s a problem. Often times the problem is known, yet unspoken. Which is understandable, because it’s cringy to talk about wanting to branch out on your own. Or, you may feel guilty. Moreover, you could think your reasoning is insignificant compared to the large picture.

I’ll tell you that you’re wrong here. Your opinion accounts for 50% of the total brainpower in the relationship. Even if your husband is a complete neanderthal, or your wife is too emotional.

You’re also being a bit unfair by keeping it in. If you care for the other person even a bit, think about it from their end.

Picturing a future without them makes it easier to leave, even if it takes time to get there. For the person you left, there likely was no notice. And it probably happened during a big fight. You may be happier ‘doing you’ the rest of your life. But, you’ve left them with a void that appeared out of nowhere.